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Jas · Family Member

Judgement Day

fei7000000 · Family Member

JAS!!!! YOU CAN'T LEAVE!!! you're one of the forefathers of the board. if you leave, it'll never be the same! please don't leave us!

Come Forth And Multiply · ADMINISTRATOR

okay, jas... time for tough love: as far as importance goes, how "important" are any of us here. this board could get along without any one of us, as an individual. this board is powered off of group fuel, not individual fuel. i wish you would quit judging your self-worth all the time. everybody has problems and conflicts going on in their heads and lives. most of us get over it, and so should you. if you can't, then maybe professional help is needed. but this is just a stopping ground for internet friends to meet or just to say hi in passing. there is no such thing as an "important" or "unimportant" person on this board, just people. take that as you will. nobody here knows you like you do so don't look for someone to "give you a reason" to stay (or leave). nobody's opinion of you--good or bad-- is worth more--or less--than yours. whatever you decide, do it for the right reasons.
your friend.

Jas · Family Member

Ok,

Maybe I didn't say it quite right the first time, but im tired of short answers when I check in with people. All my efforts here are pointless. In the end it does not matter.

I say, f u ck the internet, Id rather be friends with most of you in person. The thing is, it's never going to to happen so, what is the point? Everyone is just going to split someday anyway.

I want to be a certain friend, but it's impossible here.

Come Forth And Multiply · ADMINISTRATOR

and such is life. to me, the best part of coming here instead of actually knowing each other in person is that when you become friends with someone in person, you generally become so close that when they (or you) have to leave, the seperation anxiety is much worse than when you become internet friends with someone. "breakups"--for lack of a better term--are usually easier when you haven't had the verbal or physical contact.

Jas · Family Member

mhm.

And that's that.

fei7000000 · Family Member

actually guys, i completely disagree with you on that one. the friends i've had in person have never been much for me, mainly just people to occupie my time, with the very few execption, but on the net, i feel i can be more open. and when i lose someone, it hurts more for me. just because, if i know that person off the net, i can go see them and try to work it out. but if i lost someone on the net...its just that. they're lost forever, and theres no chance to work it out. they're just gone...and that hurts way worse. at least if i lost someone in person, i can either say to myself that i didn't take the chance, or that they didn't want it.

Jas · Family Member

That's that way I feel about all this, fei.

Nubzor · Family Member

So I've been pretty busy with end-of-the-year crap (assignments, preparing for finals, etc), but Matt drew my attention to this post.

I don't really know what to say. I'm not going to tell you that you should leave, and I'm not going to beg for you to stay. You'll do whatever it is YOU want to do, in the end.

Just know you've got people that care about you here that you can talk to whenever you need them.

:)

Jas · Family Member

You know, you are right, David. I will keep that in mind. I am just emotionally stressed right now.

"I NEED A VACATION"

....really bad.

WhoKnowsTheRealMe · Established Member

well join the emotionaily ****ed up bus i'm the driver...i can tell you that my "vacation" as you will helped me out alot in some ways and not at all in others. i want to be real freinds with some of you guys still, i'm still in the closet, im still ****ed up emotaionaly and mentaly kinda, but the vacation did kinda set my priorities because ultimalty jason you are write nothing we do on here ultimatly matters in the outcome of our lives. i mean we may give advise and talk to each other and stuff but my parents are still christian, im still gay, my freinds and family still dont know, i dont plan on telling them cuz im scared ****-less. so i still have the same problems and they still suck, but idk what im trying to tell you jason except find yourself and get to a place where you can at least live somewhat happy. if that involves us here on this board then great im pretty sure we all would love that and cant wait for you to come back...however if you feel that this is not the place for you to be and you have to leave us for good we all will understand. now because i knew you like i did i honestly think you need to at least cut back on your internet time and go out, you need poeple your a people person with a slight hero complex (which basicaly means your more than just a nice guy) you like me need physical contact with people and freinds. now its realy hard finding those type of friends who are either gay or gay tolerant but you should try. anywho love ya.

-- Edited by WhoKnowsTheRealMe at 08:27, 2008-04-30

Come Forth And Multiply · ADMINISTRATOR

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY:

There is only one judge and jury in this universe and he is not of this world. And remember, What other people think about you is none of your business.

Think about it.

the kalifornia kid · Veteran Member

we cant control what people say or think about us, so let them say and think what they want just dont let that control how you live your life. after all your the drivers

peace out k.k

bluegreenAirplane · Veteran Member

Jas wrote:

Maybe I didn't say it quite right the first time, but im tired of short answers when I check in with people. All my efforts here are pointless. In the end it does not matter.

That's not true. Not for me, atleast. Do you know how often your messages have made me smile- just to know that you care enough to check in and make sure I was alright? You are important to me and you are important to this forum. I'm always the type of person to give a super-short answer to how I'm doing because there's always so much crap I could say but I don't want to make anyone feel like I'm dumping stuff on them; so I list the basics and hope it's enough. But I would love to talk to you, Jas, a REAL dialogue between the two of us, if you're up for it.

In the end, I'm sure many of us would love to meet in real life, but it just can't happen. I love you guys to bits and I'm glad you're at least here with me via the internet, otherwise you wouldn't be here at all. I'm sorry I haven't been able to reply to this sooner, but I hope you're feeling alright Jas, and if you still need to talk about this more I'm here and everyone else is too<3.

Come Forth And Multiply · ADMINISTRATOR

yeah... what she said.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY:
When life gives you lemons...............
chuck them at somebody. You'll feel much better!

Jas · Family Member

Well, after reading all the replies, I see many of you have good points. Not to mention, your own personal views on how the forum means to you, member-wise. I thank you all for your input and it has helped me decide.

My decision is to stick around for as long as I can. I may not be around on here as much as I used to. Of course I can be reached by e-mail, since I check that daily. I will drop in now and then to see how things are going.

Rach, I apologize for not checking on you as of late. it's been too long.

again, thanks for all the input. Take care. Stay safe.

Come Forth And Multiply · ADMINISTRATOR

good decision jas. glad you thought about it.

Thought for the Day:
There is no such thing as a good thought or a bad thought.
It's what we do with them that's good or bad.
-Erik Taylor